A brilliant way to manage screen time for your kids over the summer: The marble jar

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With my kids officially out of school, I, along with lots other parents I’m sure, am gearing up for loads of free time. And that means trying to figure out how to manage screen time for the kids. Over the last few months, I’ve put together a very simple marble jar system to help manage their incessant requests for the iPad, television and MORE MINECRAFT PLEEEEASE, and it has made my life so much easier.

Even better, it’s teaching them valuable lessons that they can apply to life beyond the computer screen.


What you’ll need: 

- One jar for each kid, labeled with his or her name. I found these at a local craft store, but plastic is fine too. And we used our Mabel’s Labels but a Sharpie works too.

- Marbles.

- A timer. I like using a kitchen timer, but you can certainly use your smartphone timer as well.

 

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How it works: 

Your kids earn marbles by doing chores, making good choices, or whatever you feel in your household warrants a marble.

In my home for example, marbles are earned for regular chores, or individualized things like my oldest emptying the dishwasher or my toddler staying in her bed all night. There are also one-off opportunities like washing my car, or weeding the garden. Really, it’s what works best for your family so determine how many marbles can be earned then dropped in each kid’s jar.

Next, determine how much screen time each marble is worth.

In my house, each chore generally earns one marble which is worth 15 minutes of screen time. However I set limits: The kids can cash in a maximum of four marbles every day–though I might allow a little more over the summer, especially if they’ve been playing outside for some of the day.

When the kids want screen time, they know to check their jar and pay me the right amount of marbles. Then I set the timer and let them know when time’s up.

Then, there are some times when we have movie night, or I just need them to watch a show for a bit so I can finish up with dinner so I allow a few freebies. Rules are made to be broken (or at least bent) after all.

 

What not to do:

Really important: This works best when it’s not a reward/punishment system. In other words, don’t take away marbles as punishment for bad behavior;  instead, have the children pay you in marbles for certain choices that they get to make.

For example, if my kids are whining about cleaning up a mess they made in the living room, I tell them that they can either do it themselves for free, they can pay me three marbles for me to help, or they can pay me ten marbles and I will do it for them.

Let’s just say I’ve never had to clean up their rooms for them since instituting this system.

 

Why I love it:

Toca Boca Birthday App via flickr

Unlike lots of other token systems that involve star charts or checklists (that as a mom of four I can never keep up with), this is a system that really teaches my kids about rewards and making good choices. They are gaining an understanding of expectations and of limits. They’re learning how to budget and spend wisely. Also, I really like that they are getting some level of control in all of it–I’m not simply doling out rewards haphazardly.

But most of all, while they’re definitely not in front of a computer or TV screen day and all night, they still get some time to enjoy their electronics. It might even make them appreciate that time more.

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Kristen is CEO/Co-Founder of Cool Mom Picks and a busy mom of four kids who lives in the Philly 'burbs. Though really, what mom isn't busy?

13 Comments

  • Reply June 18, 2014

    Helga

    I love this idea! We have a 1 hour screen time rule but it gets way too flexible in the summer. We try to implement learning time when extra time is used, but this doesn’t always work out like we want it to. Do you have a minimum screen time you allow, THEN they can earn more? Or would you have a ‘fun screen time earned’ jar and a ‘learning screen time earned’ jar? Trying to work out details that I know will crop up with tweens. Thanks!

  • Reply June 18, 2014

    Kristen

    Hi Helga: I don’t separate things out but it’s worth a try. You could do freebie time that’s purely educational, and then just track the fun stuff with marbles. Then of course, you get the “what constitutes educational and fun.”

    With my tween, we have a standing rule that if she keeps her room clean, she gets auto-30 minutes of time every day. The marbles didn’t work as well for her as it did for the little kids.

    Hope that helps.

  • Reply June 18, 2014

    Helga

    Thanks, any advice with kids & tech management helps. Happy summer!

  • Love this idea Kristen!

    I have not succeeded with reward systems over the years — mostly my fault really. I just have way too much going on to consistently follow “the rules” and remember to dole out the stickers, etc.
    Now my son is 12 and a half and so I don’t think a marble system will go over with him. But I might try it with my six year old daughter.
    My problem, is I am just not a “rule” kind of person. I don’t like following rules or systems or schedules myself, so I have a hard time being strict with my kids. We do have a pretty basic schedule though that works. Although on rainy days, or when I am trying to work and multi-task, screen time is definitely higher than I would like to admit. ;)

    • Liz
      Reply June 19, 2014

      Liz

      Janice, YOU ARE ME. I am so terrible with systems and regimented anything at all. But we started this yesterday (thanks, Kristen) and so far my 7- and 9-year-olds are so excited about the idea. Bonus: I can get my youngest to try some new foods, because the alternative is that she has to pay me to eat it for her.

      I will let you know if we’re able to keep it up.

      • Reply June 20, 2014

        Brianne

        I love it! I’m going tinted this and love that either you eat it or pay me too!!

      • Reply June 22, 2014

        Jana

        That is genius!

        I, too, am horrible at sticking with reward systems. Mostly because my kids don’t feel rewarded by stickers. I’ll give this one a try -

  • Reply June 20, 2014

    Shoshana

    What ages would you recommend starting this? It’s such a great idea, but it wouldn’t work with my 3 yr old. Maybe my 5 yr old?

    • Reply June 23, 2014

      Kristen

      Hey Shoshana: I actually use this with my 3-year old but not for video games or even TV time really, but rather as a straight-up behavioral incentive program.

      She earns tokens for staying in her bed at night and not coming in at 3am to say “hi!” She can also earn them by doing chores.

      She also has the older siblings to model off of, so that probably helps. She has decided, as of late, that she prefers to have me do pretty much everything for me (all of which she can very well do herself), so I’ll often charge her to put her shoes on, or go upstairs and pick out her clothes. Funny, when she sees that she can purchase items at Target (we do that with her, 25cents per token, rather than the video time which she doesn’t care about), she realizes she’d rather put on her own shoes and get a prize later in the week.

  • Reply June 21, 2014

    Shelly Kramer

    I’m a lot like Liz and Janice — I suck at systems. But I really love this. What I love most isn’t really limiting screen time, I don’t care so much about that. I love the concept of teaching them what they really need to know in life: you have to work for what you want. So, if you love whatever it is you’re doing on the screen, work your butt off, learn the concept of “buying” in a way that it’s impossible for eight-year-olds to really do, and learn the value of saving. That’s infinitely more valuable to me than keeping them away from screens. I love this – implementing today, thanks Kristen!

  • Reply June 22, 2014

    Korinthia Klein

    I was skeptical, but boy are we loving this system! Thank you so much for sharing. So far it’s been a good thing in our house this summer: http://the-quiet-corner.blogspot.com/2014/06/a-marbleous-idea.html

  • Reply July 28, 2014

    Hello Muddah…

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  • Reply August 5, 2014

    Mark

    Cool! I’ve been looking for a better way to do rewards. Paying back for expected behaviors is what I was missing. Now to figure out the going rate for marbles.

    Mark, yes! It is really the magic missing element that’s worked for us. No kid wants to give us 4 marbles to “help them” eat a salad, we’ve found. also, 15 minutes per marble has worked great for us. -Eds

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